Me and husband was living in NJ, and his mom always ask us to move in with her in PA. and one day she decided to move in without saying a word to me. husband got job in CT we moved to CT but his mom dont want to leave our home instead occupying the house like hers. A lot things we have to leave there for her such as 沙收, bed, dinning table and living room Tv and my work desk and computer,etc.) and we have to keep paying for everything in NJ. and she keep to ask us to go back NJ and PA to work for her when our each single day-off and weekend. and every time we go back for her, she always complain we are not back soon enough and not work not good enough for her. and she is making problems between me and husband. her stuff is fill of my house in NJ and she is smoking all day alone. and I hate smoking, they complain me for opening the living room window, because It may skill my father in law who is sleeping in our living room. so I stayed in my bed room, they even complain that!
If they wont pack their things, pack it for them. Throw it on a truck. They can't stay if they have no things. Right?
If your husband won't help you, it is all up to you. You must save your marriage, because it doesn't sound like your husband is doing it.
You and your husband need to stand up for your rights and stop giving in to them.Move them back to PA,sell your house in NJ anj ask word problemsnd get on with your life in CT.You're adults and have to live your own lives.As long as you keep giving in,this will carry on forever because you're allowing this to happen.Take control of your own lives and stop letting them control you.
Good luck!!
You need to be on the same page as your husband firstly. How does he feel about all this? But you have rights in this marriage, and you should be the #1 woman in your husband's life. So tell your husband what your needs and wants are, and work out a plan of action and STICK TO IT!!!
What happened to your backbone, girl? When will you just get that it's your life and you need to correct the fact that you have been made into a doormat? Tell them to pack their AV儿劣*, call the movers and get them the hell out, and you live where you want to. Simple - maybe not easy- but simple.
Your husband needs to put his foot down!!!
Lock the door and get her out..chain locks
the fact is when your husband married you
he was suppose to "leave" his family and "cleave"
to you.
He can go about it by letting her know you
are unable to sustain this house..
or just the fact its a real burden
whatever reason it is she needs to understand
that this is not acceptable!
She has her own house
she must be very manipulate
and your husband needs to do this..
put his foot down>..
there are ways but he needs
tonj ask word problems not allow her to talk her way through him
and just be the husband he is suppose to be.
1. Put the house in New Jersey up for sale, and move YOUR things out of it. Don't worry about her stuff--she'll get the message.
2. DON'T work for her anymore. She doesn't appreciate you giving up your free time to help her out, so stop helping her already and tell her to do it herself or hire someone.
3. Both of you need to tell her that she is to stay out of your business from now on, and that her constant meddling is creating problems in your marriage. Tell her that it is not an option. She'll be angry, but...TOO BAD. She has to let the two of you have your own lives.
Hope this helps. She sounds like a real piece of work--good luck.
Ok, you are an adult so you can do what you want. You don't have to be at their beck and call and you don't have to provide them with a home.
Maybe it's time to simplify your life. They want to live in PA then help them move back there and sell your NJ home. Take your belongings back to CT with you.
If they need their lawn mowed they can hire a neighbor kid to do it like everyone else does - it's the american way. LOL
Nothing worth doing is ever easy. But in time they will adjust and you will all be much happier.
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